10.20.2014

Feeling strong!

First, I want to say thank you for all the support and comments on my Discouraged post. It means a lot to me. My main reason for writing the post was to be honest. Dear hubby often says my blog is happy, happy, happy and that isn't me. Well, yes and no. I am not always happy and I feel I do a good job showing that without bringing people down. Who wants to hear non-stop complaining? Not me!

And then I saw the comment below on my blog's racing page today and my first response was to delete in and shrug off their intent to spread negativity but then I didn't. I responded because I wanted to. No, the person who wrote the comment may never see my response but perhaps someone who really needs to will. Because I am strong and so are you!


The bad side of running is the numbers. It leads to comparisons that shouldn't be there. But those numbers are also good things that allow you to see how far you have gone, how you have improved, and where you can go next. There is a delicate grey area between allowing your numbers to build you up and letting those numbers bring you down.

Never compare yourself to others. Don't do it. It won't ever lead anywhere good. And don't covet what others have. Yes, I am onto one of the commandments but it is indeed a good lesson. Don't desire another runner's time. It will do you no good, bring you no happiness, and in fact, may make you feel bad about yourself. Just don't do it.

We are each given special gifts in life that cannot be measured on a clock. If you read my most recent marathon race re-cap you can see this isn't a brand new thought to me. That time is pretty meaningless in the grand scheme of life if the time is all you care about. But I am not saying don't rejoice when you get a new PR, qualify for Boston, etc. Rejoice! You deserve it and I will be the first to congratulate you. But I will also stand up, get darling daughter up by my side, and start clapping and cheering like crazy for a guy I do not know. A guy whose friends were sitting by us after the Maui Marathon. A guy whose friends were anxiously awaiting for him. A guy who finished the marathon in just over 6 hours. His accomplishment brought tears to my eyes and made my heart swell. He didn't give up AND he had to spend more time out there in that crazy heat than the fasties. He is strong! And so are you.

Daily Gratitude: I am thankful that I did not delete the comment on "slow" times and that I responded to it.
Daily Affirmation: I am a great runner! I am strong!

17 comments:

  1. I still say that guy is a jerk. It doesn't matter how fast you are. You are moving forward and working on taking care of yourself while others sit on the couch. I'm sure it was upsetting but there will always be that rude person out there. You don't need their approval.
    Confessions of A Mother Runner

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    1. Agreed! It did sting at first but then I had to move on.

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  2. Wow. "Donut" must have an amazing life to be able to judge others so maturely (sacrasm font). Your reply was spot on. Very few people win the races. The rest of us are out there enjoying the scenery, camaraderie, and the occasional PR.

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    1. Absolutely! And some of my most memorable races are ones I didn't PR at.

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  3. Whats about the men that post "slow" times? I dont get why it matters what someones time was as long as they finished and enjoyed the experience. People judge way too much. Be proud of your accomplishments. Kudos to you for standing up for yourself.

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  4. If it weren't for my "slow times" I would have never reached my faster times. I can relate to this post so much. There were times when the old man on the track was lapping me. I decided I wasn't out there for him, I was out there for me and it didn't matter how slow I went. All that matters is that I was out there. The guy that posted that comment has probably never run for more than a bus! Thanks for sharing this!

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  5. I turned 50 this year and at my last checkup my doctor said I am the healthiest person she knows. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was my age and an aunt had a heart attack at my age. So I celebrate every mile, no matter how fast or how slow. For every runner who is faster than me, there is one who is slower. It doesn't matter.
    "Comparison is the Thief of Joy" ~ Theodore Roosevelt

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    1. Love that quote. It literally gave me chills.

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  6. Shake it off and keep doing YOU!! That person doesn't count. I learned that everyone's race and pace is their OWN not to be judged or compared by others.

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    1. It is a pity when people are quick to judge others. We never know their whole story.

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  7. Sometimes it is hard to let down your guard and show the true you to the world but I find your honesty truly refreshing Erica. The most important thing is being true to yourself :)

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  8. What a jerk! I would have responded too. Keep doing what you're doing Erica.

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  9. Keep up the good work Erica and don't let people like him get to you. As a happy back of the packer (my PR for the half is 3:18) I am proud of my slow times and try my best not to compare myself to others.

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